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True healing can come from accepting this truth…

True healing can come if you can accept God’s truth and not your own or the world’s truth. It pains me to see the body of Christ accept the world’s philosophy of self love. I understand there are many people who have suffered terrible tragedies from childhood; raised by those who were supposed to love and protect, but misused and abused instead. This can lead someone to feel hopeless about life and starts an ongoing journey to find some sort of importance and significance within themselves. This is what makes it so easy and comforting to buy into the whole “Self Love” or “Self Esteem” philosophy. Many are told, “If you could just learn to love yourself, you will live a happier and more fulfilling life.” This is one of the craftiest lies satan has ever come up with to destroy humanity and keep people in bondage. Simply because it is the VERY opposite of what brings healing to the hearts and minds of men. The opposite of self love or self esteem is self denial. The world teaches self love while God’s Word teaches self denial. How ironic you say? It is not so much ironic as it is a calculated strategy by the evil one himself. Satan comes to kill, steal and destroy, so if he can get you on a “journey” of “self love” he can keep you in bondage to chasing your healing instead of just receiving it by denying yourself, submitting to God and living a life of peace and joy in a relationship with your Lord and Savior. The lie is that Self Love is the answer to man’s utter dissatisfaction with himself.

Millions of dollars are being spent and lost each year on people suffering from depression and mood disorders…

“About 270 million prescriptions are filled each year for anti-depressants alone. And because mental illness affects people in their prime earning years (whereas most diseases primarily affect older people) mental illness has a catastrophic effect on people’s earning power. The total earnings lost by Americans with mental illness – nearly $200 billion — is nearly twice as high as the costs of drugs and psychotherapy used to treat them.”  –

As we see, the medical profession does not have an answer for this surge in depression and mood disorders labeled mental illness and there are many other studies that will support this fact (nytimes). Therefore, what is the answer to this problem? To answer that, we must first have to admit what the problem is. The problem is mankind thinking he can settle any problem without God, the problem is sin and the problem is rebellion. When we are self willed, self sufficient, self absorbed, self gratifying and self promoting, we end up lost. Self esteem and Self love has no place in a believer’s mind or heart because it is not biblical, but a worldly philosophy. You will not find one place in it’s proper context where the bible exalts, promotes or commands self esteem or self love.

Matthew 22:36-40 (NKJV)

36 “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?”

37 Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] 40 On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.”

The bible teaches and promotes denial of self and Love for God and others. Self denial and submission to Christ is what will give us a proper balance of true love, peace and joy. God knew we already had a sin nature and propensity to love ourselves more than Him and others. Our very nature has selfishness all by itself and needs no coercion to walk in that self love. Think about it? If we were desperately in need of loving ourselves to be healthy and whole, why would the most important commandments be to Love God and your neighbor as yourself? There is no third commandment to love ourselves. If we were deficient in self love, wouldn’t the Almighty creator of the universe think it best to teach us to love ourselves first? But NO, He did not do that because we are experts at putting ourselves before Him and others!! We are experts at looking at ourselves with rose colored glasses, self preservation, self promotion, etc…

“And he said to all, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will save it.” -Luke 9:23-24

Believers, you must stop trying to mix self esteem/self love psychology with biblical teachings and expect wholeness and victory. It does not and will not work! I know your flesh loves to hear, “You need to love yourself first and then you will be healed.” This is not true. You need to DENY yourself to receive healing and deliverance. Any type of focus on self (notice I said “focus”) is detrimental to what it means to be a believer. This contradicts the character of the believer described throughout scripture. There is NO place in scripture that teaches us to focus on or believe in self. Scripture teaches us to love and focus on Christ, Him crucified and glorifying The Father by being a disciple of Jesus Christ and loving your neighbor AS yourself. The “AS” is confirming that we already love ourselves and God needed not to expound any further.

The bible warns us about this indoctrination of self love in the last days. “But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people.” -2 Timothy 3:1-5

Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.” -Matthew 16:24

Here are more scriptures to confirm Self Denial is the answer, not Self Esteem or Self Love…  READ

Now believer. Are you crucified with Christ or are you trying to mix worldly teachings with Christ’s teachings? It’s time to choose biblical truth, walk in total healing and deliverance. Do not fall prey to the Love Yourself/Positive Thinking/Be Happy Movement.

God bless you!prod_664_34582

“I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” -Galatians 2:20

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